Intimacy is defined as being closely acquainted with a person and or engaging in private or personal interactions. Intimacy could include long walks, deep conversations, events that could be qualified as “quality time”, and of course sex. When we are in the beginning stages of getting to know a person, how soon is too soon to establish intimacy? Does intimacy lead us into intricate situations? Are we more susceptible to intimacy based on the intricate details of a given situation?
When something is intricate, it is labeled as very complicated or detailed. In a relationship things can become intricate due to one or both parties providing or omitting valuable information, if feelings outside of friendship arise, and or if sex is introduced. Are there limits and specifications on how much time we should spend with a person during the “getting to know you” stage? Are there guidelines as to what activities should be avoided and those that should be promoted? Who sets the rules for the dating game? Are we all bound by these rules?
For me, I know the types of interactions that lowers my guard and increases my vulnerability. The current issue for me is deciphering between intimacy and intricacy in dating. Being in a vulnerable state can be very uncomfortable for most people. I am one of the many! Since I am such an open person, I share a lot with people that I am interested in getting to know. I want to always make the best decision for my situation. I am not the type of person that will cut someone off just because I feel like it. I am a very logical person. I think about my decisions before I make them my actions.
I consider the possible outcomes and formulate a plan from there. I like to be around people, I like to be involved. I am very outgoing and social. At the same time, I do not like to be taken advantage of or made to feel as if I am unappreciated. Choosing to allow someone in my life is an intricate decision in itself. Allowing said person to become intimate with me on any level affects how complex things can get. With that being stated, honesty works best! For this reason, I am very honest and open about myself, what I like, what I do not like, and what I am willing to deal with.
I do not want my love to be intricate! I want my love to be intimate. I have experienced a lot in my life that has molded my views on intimacy, intricacy in intimacy, and vulnerability. From my experiences I have learned that I just want to be happy. I want to be swept off my feet by the man that was designed and created to be my life partner. I want to enjoy our intimate moments and allow those moments to be the bridge over our intricate waters. I am looking forward to him finding me. I want us to live and love happily for the rest of our lives! That is not too much to ask…Can it be too much to expect?