Category Archives: Random Reflections

Pain is as pain does

Pain does not discriminate. It does not prefer a specific gender, it does not have a height or weight requirement, and there is no application to see if you qualify. Pain comes when we least expect it from the people that we least expect to inflict it. Just because we all experience pain, does not mean that our experiences are the same. With that being said, pain is a pre-cursor to healing. In order to feel better, we must know what feeling bad is like, otherwise there is no comparison.

Today has been full of pain for a few people in my close circle. It is a feeling that does not just go away and the situations that cause us pain are not things for us to just simply get over. Pain and painful situations are things that we must go through. We have to feel the pain of our decisions so that we learn from them. We also have to recognize our role in our pain. This is not to say that we cause our pain every time we go through it. It is to say that we made a decision at some point that affected our situation.

When we are hurt, many of us tend to hurt others. Some intentionally, others are a result of their current exposure to the situation. Lying is an effect of pain. We lie about things that hurt us so that we do not have to deal with it or feel the pain. That only stunts our growth. We have to be real with ourselves first before we can expect anyone else to be real and honest with us. The golden rule states that we should treat¬†people how we want to be treated…treating ourselves well is where this begins.

Learning love

I have been in love, on love, around love, and through love so many times. I have changed my idea of what love is and what I want from it. Over time I have been included in triangles of love between my heart, my mind, and my spirit. I looked to people that I knew for love and they showed me the difference between conditional and unconditional love. I have learned what it means to say I love you and how it feels to show how much you love someone. I do not like for my choices to be taken away from me. If you don’t love me, don’t say that you do. I would rather know that there is no love than to be tricked into thinking that the love you say is real is actually conditional. Unconditional respect is earned and unconditional love is respected.

Choosing to move on

I am choosing not to let the foolishness of my life dictate the outcome of my day. I am determined to focus on the good and continue to rely on the constant source of all things.¬† Sometimes life hits us with curveballs when we are prepared to walk the bases. It is up to us to stay focused on the game in it’s entirety and not on the current play. I have made it this far despite my situation and I have come close to loosing it all, but I am still here. My growth continues. I know that I am a work in progress and that I need to constantly look to the hills. Man will let me down every time, when I stop trusting them and lean on my Father I always get what I need and more.