Dear Ms. MeWithIt

Dear Shay,

I’ve been reading your blogs and I think you could help so I’m going to give this a try.

I’ve been dating a guy recently and I really like him. At first he said that he was interested in being together in a relationship and he complimented me a lot (still does that), but he doesn’t really seem interested in the relationship part anymore…he still calls and text occasionally. One big thing too, were not having sex either. Not by choice! But by life. I don’t want to lose him, but I want to know that he won’t leave and that one day we’ll be together. What does he want with me? Shay, tell me what to do. Should I stay or should I go?


Ms. MeWithIt


Dear Ms. MeWithIt,

Thank you for your support and for allowing me to offer some assistance.

Well…One thing that I can say is that you cannot force him into something that he is pulling away from. I cannot tell you how he feels or what he is thinking or what is going through his mind. What I can say is that you have to decide what you are willing to accept and reject from him. If you want a relationship and that is the idea under which you involved yourself with him, then you have to make a choice. You have to decide if you are going to be his girl, the way he wants you to be, or if you are going to do what makes you happy. Somewhere along the way something changed and it may not be a change for the worst. Take a step back and enjoy life. It sounds like you already know what you want, now you will have to allow him to figure out what he really wants. Hope this helps.


What do you think?