“You ain’t got to lie Craig, you ain’t got to lie!” is one of the most quotable lines from a movie that has shaped my generation. The line is used after a girlfriend suspects that her boyfriend has been unfaithful and is not being truthful about it. Although she was the unfaithful one, not even she wanted to be lied to.
I am sure that if I conducted a poll about the top 3 pet peeves or most disrespectful characteristic traits, lying would be there. I am a person that searches for truth daily so for someone to lie to me…that is a close contender to a person spitting towards my face (not in my face cause that’s a whole ‘nother level of disrespect).
Being a single woman going through the rigmarole of dating (and everything else I have going on) I am SO not interested in the lies that men tell. My time, energy, and space are valuable to me. Those are some of the things that I cherish greatly. So if I chose to share any of those things with a man I DEFINITELY do not want him to lie to get it.
Cliche’ statements like, ‘honesty is the best policy’ and ‘the truth hurts’ make complete sense to me. As far as I am concerned, honest island is the best place to operate from and I would rather the truth hurt me than to be temporarily pacified by a lie. Building a house on a shaking foundation is not a wise move just as building a relationship on an unstable or deceitful foundation is counterproductive to achieving relationship goals.
So many people think that lying protects the other person. People think that lying will reduce the pain. They think that lying will be easier than telling the truth. Two out of three of these ideas are completely ludicrous. The idea that lying is easier is the only one that is fact. In certain situations it is easier to allow an untruthful statement to fall from our lips to see a smile instead of allowing the truth to seep out and lead to disappointment.
In all honesty, a lot of things could be avoided if people told the truth instead of lying. Instead of lying to get over on people, ask for help. Instead of lying to get sex, state your goals. Instead of lying to get attention, do something worth noticing. Even if the outcome of telling the truth or being honest is not what you wanted, it will prove to be better for you in the long run. As long as truth is dealt in love, it will be received.